“Why can’t I meditate?”
As a meditation coach, I hear this question all the time. And the truth is, I’ve never met anyone in my life who literally couldn’t meditate. Not once did they receive proper guidance
But people still say “I can’t meditate” all the time.
Now, I’m not going to give you the typical advice you hear all the time. I won’t tell you that you’re using an app, removing stimulants like caffeine, exercising, or trying a different technique.
I’m going to dig much deeper than that. And after reading this, you will understand 100% why it is difficult for you to meditate. And you know exactly what to do about it. In fact, what I said below is one of my favorite ways facilitate meditation.
Why can’t I meditate? … Well, because …
Okay, so you think you can’t meditate.
What I would like you to do for a moment is to forget about meditation and deepen. I want to talk about metacognition. That is, I want you to be aware of the basic way in which your consciousness works. Because once you understand this, meditation will be easy.
So your conscience is basically your conscience. It’s yours focus.
Now there are three basic things you need to know about your mental focus (the third point is the most important).
1: Your consciousness is basically like an object that you can move (just come with me on this)
2: You have autonomy over your approach. You can choose what to focus on, for how long, when to move your focus, and so on.
3: This is the big one. Your mind learns habits about how you use your approach. For example, if you are constantly moving your focus, your focus will continue to move even when you want it to be still. (This will be a game changer in a moment).
Like I said, number 3 above is the big one. And once you fully understand it, you’ll know why you can’t meditate and what to do about it.
So here it is. Your mind learns habits about how you use your approach, how often you move your focus, and so on. Therefore, if you constantly change what you focus on, your mind will learn it as a habit. And you will continue to practice these habits even when you do not want to. Therefore, if you have trained your mind to constantly focus from one thing to another, it will continue to do so even when you want to stop and meditate.
The problem is that virtually everyone in 2022 has taught their minds to move constantly.
Let me give you a very common example of this.
Let’s say you’re on social media. You are in Insta scrolling through posts. What’s going on in your mind as you do this?
You go to social media. Focus on a post or image for a few seconds. Displacement. Focus on something else. Scroll again. Etc.
You’re creating a habit: concentrating, moving, concentrating, moving, and so on.
Now remember that your mind keeps doing these habits even when you don’t want to.
Then stop and try to meditate. Try to focus on breathing. But what will really happen?
Your mind basically says, “Okay, you want me to be quiet now, but you taught me that habit. focus, move, focus, move … so I will keep doing that. ” Your mind will continue to do the habit you taught it to do while you were on social media. He will jump from one thing to another constantly, making meditation impossible.
Of course, social media is not the only example of this. Far away.
Unfortunately, we live in a society where everything catches your eye. Ads, the media, other people … constantly catch your eye. So your attention is always on the move, and that becomes a habit. So when you try to keep your focus still (which is basically meditation), your mind keeps jumping all over the place. And that’s why you can’t meditate.
Of course, one solution is Reduce distractions so you can focus.
But let’s dig deeper.
How can you meditate
Basically, you need to create a new mental habit. You want your mind to get used to being still. And the only way to do that is to do it cut down the time you spend on mentally “busy” things (social media, technology, overly stimulating video games, busy environments, etc.). And it increases the time you spend doing things that slow down your mind (reading, spending time in nature, being attentive, listening to relaxing music, etc.).
When you do this, you will train your mind to be still. So when you try to meditate, your mind will say, “Oh, we’re still quiet. I understand that. Sure. Don’t worry.” And then you can meditate.
Paul Harrison is a passionate teacher of meditation who believes in genuine and authentic meditation. He has over 15 years of experience in meditation and mindfulness. He studied meditation in beautiful Oxford, UK, and Hamilton, Ontario, Canada, and graduated from Staffordshire University.
“My goal is to offer the most authentic meditation sessions so that you can harness the power of your own mind for personal transformation” – Paul Harrison
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